When I find myself dwelling on the past or the future, it’s always because I think I need to do something to feel like I’m enough.
“I need to achieve this goal…”
“I need to fix this conflict…”
“I need to change this thing about myself…”
Only then will I be enough. Only then will I be okay.
I find myself writing and rewriting the stories of my past and future in my mind. My ego labors to find the perfect narrative that will make me believe I was, and will be, enough.
But I’ve learned the hard way that I cannot think my way into enoughness.
There’s no story that will make me feel like I am enough. If there were, that would mean that enoughness comes from outside of me, from the perception of others. How can enoughness come from others? You can never be enough to everyone.
In this way, all stories, even the “good” ones, reinforce the belief that we are not enough.
So what is one to do?
What I’ve learned is that I don’t have to create enoughness. It’s already there. I just have to clear the fog enough for it to emerge.
The way to do that is through presence.
When I’m fully present in the moment, all stories disappear, including the story that “I am not enough”.
And in that space, enoughness emerges.
Enoughness isn’t a story.
Enoughness is the absence of stories.
When the stories disappear, you become your body, your mind, your heart, your sensations. You just are. No narrative needed.
I have always been enough, I just haven’t always seen it.
Enoughness and presence are the same thing.
Enoughness is here.
"I cannot think my way to enoughness." So very true, and yet this plague of overthinking is such a visceral struggle and cause of suffering for so many. Enoughness is an embodied presence, which takes practice to cultivate and "clear the fog." It is an invitation to a new way of being in the world. Thank you for sharing!
Brilliant!
Working on a series called “The Other Side of Enough” examining people who have enough money… and whether that makes them feel enough.
Will definitely keep this in my notes.