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It all depends on the why! Being extraordinary should be the outcome of purpose. Being in the moment gives relief to the ordinary. Your wife found her purpose long before you did.

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Well said! Totally agree.

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I’m on the path of finding this courage too… tired of a lot of things

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I can relate to that feeling of tiredness. It's exhausting trying to be extraordinary.

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Having a grounded and centered wife absolutely saved me. She brought balance to my life and, as you say, appreciation for ordinary things.

In an alternate life I'd probably have married another type-A/high achiever... and that would have doomed me.

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I imagine that alternative life sometimes too and I'm pretty sure I'd be dead in a ditch somewhere.

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Your life sounds great! You and Alison both sound great! Maybe the journey to get to where you are now is the lesson. Embracing being fully you, as you are, enough.

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Thanks Jamie, it's been a long journey with some really difficult times to get here (isn't is always?)

And the journey continues.

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Apr 16Liked by David Spinks

The timeliness of this article was too serendipitous for me again and so beautifully stated. Thank you for this and excellent work! Couldn’t agree more. Stability, slowness, and the mundane and ordinary are extraordinarily beautiful.

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So happy it reached you at the right time Sierra <3

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Apr 16Liked by David Spinks

I relate to this a lot. I have forever had a terror of being ordinary, and it's a somewhat new thing to discover the immense relief and joy in finding out that being ordinary is actually more than OK (parts of me still resist this though!)

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The pull to seeking an "external" extraordinary life is 100% still there for me too.

I wonder if there's a healthy, conscious version of it. Like, I do still think I'm "special" in that I think I'm unique, and have unique gifts to offer. If I can offer them from a place of enoughness, rather than needing the validation of my gifts in order to feel enough, that would be pretty extraordinary.

There's also so much that is extraordinary to explore within you (and all of us), and you can spend the rest of your life tuning into it <3

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I'm on the same path to internalizing the new extraordinary...super helpful to read this. Thank you :)

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Happy to be on the path together. Thanks will!

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Beautiful. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

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Can I be ordinarily extraordinary? Or is the opposite better?

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